I Think I Wanna Marry You

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Marriage to me is like what Santa Claus is to an aging child. The world is telling me that I need to let go, but I’m still holding on to the dream.
The concept of marriage has been swept aside as some archaic tradition of the old world. It seems no one has anything positive to say about it. Whenever it comes up around the office it becomes a marriage bashing session. But then there’s me still holding on to hope.
I’m a romantic, and so to me marriage is a declaration of life-long love. You’re promising to love one person until you die, in front of God and all your loved ones. How beautiful is that!?

Marriage hasn’t always been about love in the past and still isn’t in some parts of the world. They were pretty much business transactions between two families, and the actual bride and groom didn’t have much choice. Well, sometimes the groom had choices but for the bride marriage was the only choice. There wasn’t many options for a woman to make an income of her own.
Now in our modern society a woman can support herself without the help of a man. So that means marriage can be whatever we want.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not under the impression that marriage is a cake walk. If it was divorce wouldn’t be so common. I’ve seen first hand what a unhappy, unhealthy marriage looks like. My parents divorced then got remarried and now there in this married but not “together” thing. It’s definitely not the kind of marriage I aspire to have. Despite all of their issues I still believe a happy marriage is possible, though for a moment there I doubted it. But I came to the conclusion that there experience will not be my experience because I am not my mother and my husband will not be my father.We will be two new people in a new union.  I won’t let their unhappiness rob me of my future happiness.
In fact I’ve learned from them how important it is to marry the right person, for the right reasons.

I will always fight for the sacred bond that is marriage. In the meantime I’m still looking for my exception to the rule, someone who wants to prove the naysayers wrong and take that leap with me.

Marrying for love may be a bit risky, but it is so honest that God can’t help but smile on it.

-Josh Billings

 

 

I want to hear from you. Your Mom & Dad’s marriage was nowhere near perfect, so how do you feel about marriage now?

 

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Pretty Pear Brides

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6 thoughts on “I Think I Wanna Marry You

  1. My parents divorced when I was seven and my dad has been married a total of 4 times and this current wife doesn’t look like she’ll stay around long. Literally no one in my lineage has healthy relationships and marriages are few and far in between but I still believe! I know that I don’t have to follow in the footsteps of my family line and can be a game changer with God guiding me and my future hubby.

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  2. Like Seretha, a healthy marriage is not really in my lineage either. When my parents got divorced, I didn’t care for marriage too much, I wanted the benefits rather than be a apart of the holiness experience that it’s supposed to be. As I’m getting older, God is allowing me to see marriage differently and actually want it. I look back at all the marriages or lack of in my family and I’m learning from their mistakes or successes and I’m taking mental notes. I believe that marriage will be something that I will eventually be a part of, but more to set a different standard for my younger cousins and my own children.

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  3. Imperfect

    I thought long and hard about commenting on your article……mainly because it involves me, but I decided to because I need to before I see you again. ……My parents, your grandparents have been married for fifty plus years, and what I learned from them about marriage had zero impact on my marriages. Zilch, nada, nothing…because I made my own decisions, and mistakes, and because neither of them took the time to talk to me about how to treat a woman. I’m not saying I blame them for my failed marriages….but they didn’t rob me of my unhappiness either. At the end of the day people are just that,” people”. Imperfect, flawed, …..and make mistakes. About everything. Sometimes real big things like marriage, sometimes they make em twice. In a perfect world our parents would show us the right way to do everything, be the examples we strive our children to be…..but this isn’t a perfect world. If you believe in love, as well you should, I believe in love for you. I pray that you find the soul mate, the romance, the spirtual partner that God has for you, because I love you. You are the one thing I got right in this life. And yes… it was my responsibility to show you and your brother the beauty of love and respect…….but it didn’t happen that way, because I’m ” people”.

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  4. Understanding

    My Dear Daughter, I also thought long and hard on how or if I was even going to respond to this post…But after reading your dads response. It has given me the courage to post my thoughts…As you are aware, I grew up in a single parent home, And when I met your dad and found out that he was raised with both his parents in the home, I was an awe. That was what I wanted. And you know what, that’s what I did… I raised my kids in a home with both parents…I fulfilled that dream. Now I still believe in marriage whole heartedly, Maybe mines didn’t work out the way I wanted it to (twice over) BUT I believe in marriage nonetheless and still one day want to be married to my dream partner. And I want the same for you… Me and your dad get along better now that we are aware of where we are in our relationship/marriage.. I still consider him my best friend. I love him for who he is as a person and I would give him my last dime and the shirt off my back if he needed it.. Also I don’t consider my marriage as a failed marriage as odd as it may sound my daughter. Just always remember I love you and your brother, and as your dad said in his response, you guys are the one thing I did right in my life …And I’m happy with that. I love you to the moon and back my child.

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